We tend to emphasize academic preparation and results with children. Often less effort is put into teaching kids the emotional skills they need to succeed in life and have a healthy childhood. Knowing how to combat stress and anxiety and take care of their feelings are key components to living a successful life.
There is a strong correlation between students' emotional intelligence and their classroom behavior. Students with low emotional intelligence may struggle to have relationships with their peers, to focus or may even show aggressive behavior such as bullying. Students with undeveloped emotional intelligence tend to struggle to communicate their feelings with their peers; this can result in children struggling to form friendships with classmates or even relationships with adults.
Many people expect children to learn emotional regulation simply from observing family dynamics, by participating in school, church, and community activities. For many children however, this is simply not the case.
Aggression and bullying are common issues for students with lower emotional intelligence, because they don't have the skills they need to communicate or manage their emotions appropriately. These behavior problems often surface in preschool or early elementary school and tend to increase in seriousness from that point on and can become mental health issues.
Preschools and elementary schools that integrate emotional intelligence programs or different forms of play therapy gain some very real benefits. For example, students who participate in these programs, exhibit less aggressive behavior towards adults and their peers. Developing emotional intelligence improves relationships in the classroom, making it easier for teachers to teach and students to learn.
Life skills, such as being able to focus and control emotions, are supportive of good health, increased creativity and wealth, independent of the child's IQ or their socio-economic status at birth."
A New Zealand Multidisciplinary Health and Development Study followed 1,000 children for more than three decades, measuring their self-control.
By adulthood, children in the group with the highest emotional self-control were significantly less likely to have health problems than children in the group with lower self-control. They were also found to be much less likely to have addictions to substances or a criminal record. The children with high self-control and emotional intelligence also went on to earn more money as adults.
It’s not uncommon for children with anxiety to be disruptive at school, where demands and expectations put extra pressure on them that they are not equipped to handle. It can be very confusing to teachers and other staff members to ‘read’ that behavior since it can seem to come out of nowhere.
Anxiety can express itself in many different ways. Children who do not have the words to express their feelings, might manifest their anxiety with behavioral problems, acting out as bullying, the class ‘fool’ or even shutting down.
Disruptive behavior often stems from unresolved anxiety. A child who acts out, may be reacting to anxiety he/she may not be able to articulate, or not even recognize what he/she is feeling.
A child often stores their unresolved negative feelings in their subconscious mind, creating ongoing problems and mental health issues, sometimes for the rest of their life.
Fortunately, there are many ways to help children address their issues while building emotional intelligence either with a trained child therapist or even better by acknowledging the issue yourself and investigating the many different ways you can learn about your child and how to help them.
The first most important step is to recognize there are no bad children only negative behaviour patterns and are generally a cry for help.
The dictionary definition of the subconscious is
"...the part of your mind that notices and remembers information when you are not actively trying to do so and influences your behavior even though you do not realize it:
When a situation a child experiences has a negative emotion associated with it such as fear, sadness or shame, those emotions are stored deep within their subconscious and often later surface as emotional outbursts, disruptive behavior or social withdrawal.
FTT4KIDZ is a very simple but powerful system that allows a child to identify their emotions, release negative responses, blockages and feelings. It enables them to connect with their feelings through pictures and express themselves as never before. It has the power to completely change how a child relates to their experience of the world.
Magical U allows children to access their subconscious emotions, release them quickly and often times permanently. They learn to replace them with positive uplifting responses based on how they want to be and feel.
With Magical U you help a child unravel their problematic feelings as they go on a journey with our special character, ‘U’ and the Magical U cards.
Working and playing with a child and the magical U system empowers the child to understand, resolve and release the feelings that are causing the negative behavior or withdrawal. It can also help the adult to have a better understanding of how this came into being. This increased understanding of a child’s behaviour is immensely healing for the child as well as being helpful for the adult dealing with the child.